It’s especially cruel that a lot of the important elements of this for us require a specific kind of interaction with others - praise, encouragement, physically being fed…. Think how hard people find dating even in the vanilla world though, even without adding a niche kink to it, even without trying to find someone who’s into the same stuff as you. Depending on my mood, my reaction is either “Aww I know, it’s tough, I want to hug you ?” or “Well DUH there are like 5 of us or something ?”. I quite often see posts talking about how lonely it is and how hard it is trying to find someone to share this with. Don’t get disheartened trying to make connections with other feedists. Which is good! (And, also, v hot, in my opinion…)Ĥ. There’s a good chance that by the time you weigh the same as that person you admire, your body might look very different to theirs anyway. Also, I love seeing feedees interact online, complimenting each others gains, “hey man you look great I wish I looked like you!”, a little friendly envy and competition, so cute! ? I think it can sometimes be easy to get sucked into comparing yourself and wishing you looked different though, or getting frustrated if you gain slowly, or erratically, when other people seem to be able to just pile it on. If you want to try gaining but you’re not sure, just gain a few pounds and see how you feel. Go slowly and try not to compare yourself to others.
It seems a little taboo in some circles to even mention the fact that getting fat might not always be brilliant for your physical health if you ever find yourself in a position where you have to compromise between your physical health and your mental health (ie because you know you’re much happier at a bigger size, but you have encountered difficulties of some kind) whatever you ultimately decide to do in that situation should be your choice, and yours alone.ģ. My feedee and I might enjoy the fantasy of me kidnapping him and force-feeding him to immobility despite his protests, but in reality, I can’t tell you how upset I’d be if I found out that man had gained even one pound more than he was really comfortable with just because he thought it would please me. Whatever you do to or with it should be your choice, because you want your home to be something that you feel good inhabiting. Your body is yours alone, it is your home, where only you live. Depending on the kind of advice you’re after, it might be more sensible to (respectfully!) ask an experienced feedee.Ģ. I am slim myself and have never been fat, so I also don’t know first hand what it’s like to inhabit a fat body.
I remember when I first joined Feabie, I got a few messages asking for weight gain tips and I was a little taken aback, because to be honest I only joined to ogle fat boys and hopefully flirt with some… I do of course make an effort to educate myself about calories, metabolism, nutrition, all of that, but I feel it would be pretty irresponsible of me to randomly dispense that kind of advice. It depends what you want to know of course, but we are still not necessarily the best people to ask. Be wary of asking feeders for advice! WE ARE EVIL AND WE JUST WANT YOU FAT AT ANY COST. What am I, fucking BuzzFeed?! Well alright, here we go:ġ.